Live-Streaming from Red 7 in Austin, TX, my friend David Didonato is attempting to defeat the current World Record streak for the longest guitar solo!

Live broadcasting by Ustream

From badassdigest.com:

Former J Church/Rat King/Ultimate Dragons guitarist and current Modok guitarist/music instructor David Didonato is convinced he can defeat the current Guinness Book of World Records streak for the longest guitar solo of all time (currently at 24 hours and 18 minutes with a Guinness approved 5 minute break every hour). Starting Sunday, May 13th at 7pm CST and (hopefully) lasting until Monday, May 14th at 7pm David will attempt to shred the world record.

David was my husband’s art college roommate, along with (fellow J Church member) Ben Snakepit, whose comics we published in the Young American Comics days. …got all that?

From dmx.com:

JQ: …If you succeed, do you think you’ll try to get it in the “good book” ? [the Guinness Book of World Records.]

DD: I hope! When I told my kids about my plan to be in the Book of World Records they said, “Yeah – but it’d be better if you got in it for something cool.”

They’ve been around guitar solos for their entire lives, so to them it’s just something that their dorky dad does.

JQ: One day they’ll know how cool you are, even if they’re embarrassed now! I want to know what the hell possessed you to do this.

DD: I’ve always been fascinated by artistic endeavors that are considered “extreme”. Kind of like Andy Warhol filming a guy sleeping, or enormous paintings, sculptures, etc.

I just think that if you’re going to do something, you should push it to its absolute limit.

Go, David! Go!

Links:

• Shredding the World Record
• U-Stream Link
• Artist Interview: David Didonato
• Wikipedia: J Church
• Ben Snakepit
• David Didonato (Youtube)

It’s Thirsty Thursday, so let’s make ourselves a tasty treat!

Today, we’re making Drunken Root Beer Floats. Jägermeister is a German herbal liqueur. Some people might call it “an acquired taste,” but I’m going to let you in on a little secret: it goes GREAT with root beer.

If you’re not a fan, you can also use Vanilla Vodka.

Both Jägermeister and Vodka are best when served cold, so stick ‘em in the freezer for at least a couple of hours prior to making your drinks. You can also chill glass mugs (I used mini mason jars) in the refrigerator for little while to make ‘em extra frosty.

The recipe couldn’t be simpler: Add a scoop or two of Vanilla Ice Cream to each of your glasses, then 2 oz.* of either Jägermeister or Vanilla Vodka. Finally, fill to the top with Root Beer and enjoy!

* Since we enjoyed these for a Happy Hour treat, and since we were drinking out of mini-mugs, we used one shot of alcohol. If you’re making regular-sized floats, you may choose to double the alcohol. Always enjoy responsibly!

Cheers!

Yesterday, Andrea and I were chatting about taking photos of flowers. I take a lot of nature photos, and while I don’t post or share them all, the act of taking the photos has become a simple but inspiring meditation.

We frequently hear the suggestion to “stop and smell the flowers” and I think this meditation takes that idea one step further: When we train ourselves to stop and capture the beauty that we see in the world around us, and make a habit of doing so, we begin to seek out that beauty.

And the best part? The more we train ourselves, the more beauty we see.  The world around us is suddenly full of tiny pieces of art.

As you walk around your corner of this Universe, notice the beauty around you and capture it with a camera, or jot down a few words or a quick sketch in an art journal or sketchbook. Or just take a moment to notice and focus on it.

This meditation need not be limited to nature photos, however, nor is it only for people with fancy cameras. Beauty is subjective, after all, and remember: it’s the act of taking the photo, not the photo itself. My husband has an awesome collection of photos of doors that he’s taken with instagram.

Where do you find the beauty in your life? How do you capture it?

It’s How-to Tuesday! Here are 12 easy DIY Watercolor Techniques to create interesting textures for art journals and other projects, too! These all involve things you probably already have around the house! Have fun experimenting and enjoy!

This afternoon Tod and I sat down to enjoy Beach House’s latest, Bloom, which will be released on May 15, and is currently streaming on NPR’s First Listen. …and enjoy it we did!

Beach House is a dream pop duo formed in 2004 in Baltimore, Maryland, consisting of French-born Victoria Legrand and Baltimore native Alex Scally.

Legrand’s beautiful, dreamy vocals are often compared to Nico’s and it’s easy to see why. It’s fitting, as well, since The Velvet Underground are commonly considered to be the grandparents of dream pop and shoegaze.

Bloom is a relaxing album, and I’m looking forward to another listen, probably while unwinding with a book and a mug of hot tea.

Audiophiles, take note: According to an interview with Indie Ethos, Beach House’s fourth album was recorded on analog tape, meaning the Vinyl version of this album will be a must-have.

“Bloom” Tour Schedule:

05/08 – Miami Beach, FL @ The Fillmore*
05/09 – Orlando, FL @ Beacham Theater*
05/10 – Jacksonville, FL @ Freebird Live*
05/11 – Birmingham, AL @ The Bottletree*
05/12 – Athens, GA @ Georgia Theatre*
05/13 – Asheville, NC @ The Orange Peel*
05/15 – New York, NY @ Bowery Ballroom
05/23 – Brighton, UK @ The Haunt
05/24 – London, UK @ Village Underground
05/25 – Belgium, BE @ De Kreun
05/26 – Amsterdam, NL @ Melkweg
05/27 – Berlin, DE @ Volksbuhne
05/29 – Paris, FR @ Maronguinerie
05/31 – Dudingen, CH @ Bad Bonn Kilbi Festival
06/02 – Barcelona, ES @ Primavera Sound
06/03 – Montpellier, FR @ Le Rockstore
06/04 – Bordeaux, FR @ Theatre Barby
06/05 – Nantes, FR @ Stereolux
06/06 – Lyon, FR @ Epicrerie Moderne
06/07 – Blarritz, FR @ L’Atabal
06/08-09 – Porto, PT @ Optimus Primavera Sound
07/01 – San Diego, CA @ House of Blues **
07/03 – Los Angeles, CA @ El Rey Theatre **
07/06 – Aspen, CO @ Belly Up Aspen **
07/07 – Albuquerque, NM @ Sunshine Theater **
07/09 – Tulsa, OK @ Cain’s Ballroom **
07/10 – Lawrence, KS @ Liberty Hall **
07/11 – St. Louis, MO @ The Pageant **
07/12 – Memphis, TN @ Minglewood Hall **
07/13 – Louisville, KY @ Forecastle Festival
07/15 – Chicago, IL @ Pitchfork Music Festival
07/17 – Indianapolis, IN @ The Vogue **
07/18 – Pontiac, MI @ The Crofoot Ballroom **
07/19 – Cleveland, OH @ House of Blues **
07/20 – Columbus, OH @ Newport Music Hall **
07/21 – Pittsburgh, PA @ Mr. Small’s Theatre **
07/23 – New York, NY @ Central Park Summer Stage
08/31-09/02 – North Dorset, UK @ End of the Road Festival

* w/ Zomes

** w/ Wild Nothing

Previously…

We included Beach House’s “Home Again” from the 2008 album, “Devotion” on our 4th Chill Mix.

Sources/Links

• NPR
• Beach House (wikipedia)
• Dream Pop (wikipedia)
• A Short History of Shoegaze / Dream Pop
• Beach House’s Victoria Legrand talks recording upcoming new album: ‘Bloom’

Yesterday, I put together my second art journal for my 366 Project — I’ve got 4 more pages to fill in the first one and then I’ll move onto the next one for April, May and June.

I absolutely love how packed full the first one has gotten, especially knowing that those are all pages of positive meditations, inspirational quotes, art work and memories.

While I’ve kept scrapbook/sketchbook hybrids since I was 19 or so (I should share some photos of my first one sometime… maybe.) this year is the first time I’ve ever done it with this frequency and as part of a self-care “exercise” regimen. I feel better than ever. I’m happier and more positive. My focus is improved. I feel less stressed.

All from taking a few minutes each day to cut and paste, write and sketch. Art Journals = awesome.

View all of the art journal pages I’ve done so far: Slideshow / Flickr Set / Tumblr Tag

In 2004, I found myself struggling with crippling depression. After 8 months of a long distance romance, I had moved across country to live with my now husband in San Diego, California. The time I’d spent apart from Tod had been hard, but now, separated from my family and friends by some 1,200 miles for the first time in my life, I felt homesick and empty. I learned what many who suffer with depression learn: it wasn’t just “being sad.”

There were ups and there were downs. But the big changes had affected me in profound ways and ultimately, overall, I felt “lost.”

Being lost in the real world is scary, especially when we’re in unfamiliar surroundings, or when we’re not exactly sure where we’re headed. Depression, to me, felt very similar.  I suffered with anxiety, and nearly constant fears and doubts. My self-esteem was low.

In January 2005, Time Magazine’s cover story was “The Science of Happiness” and I devoured every word. Inside, it talked about the neurology of happiness, and just how adaptable our monkey brains are. Neurologists had done fMRI scans (you know, the brain scan machine that Dr. House always uses?) of Tibetan monks and shown how meditation and positive thinking had impacted their brains in literal ways.

It took me a solid six months after reading that article to make what I consider the first step in my path towards happiness. It was July 4, one of the busiest days of the hectic Summer Season (I was working at Sea World as a caricature artist at the time) and I’m certain that I was stressed out. I was homesick as ever, missing a big annual family get-together on that day. Honestly, I don’t remember much of the specifics, but I know that at some point that day, I couldn’t take it anymore. I’d finally reached my breaking point, and I declared my own personal Independence Day.

I understood that my depression wasn’t my fault, but on Independence Day, I decided it wasn’t a part of me, either. Instead of thinking of it as something “wrong” with me, I decided to look at it as though it were a parasite. It was not a part of me, and  it couldn’t survive without feeding off of me. I knew I could beat it.

The next step was to change my language. Instead of saying, “I am depressed.” I began to say, “This depression is really affecting me today.” It was a small change, but its impact on me was more than noticeable. I was changing my mindset, and even though I didn’t have an fMRI machine, I knew I was changing the physical pathways within my brain, as well.

There was a lot more work to be done on my road to Happiness, and I don’t mean to oversimplify a complicated subject. It’s been seven years and I still struggle with the occasional setback. But I no longer feel lost.

The “power of positive thinking” is a grossly overused idea and perhaps it doesn’t get the scientific backup that it deserves. But I think it’s presented in the wrong way. Positive Thinking should not be thought of as a bandage we apply to a wound, but as an exercise routine that we repeat on a regular basis to keep mentally fit. The same way that we “train” to become better athletes, we can train to become happier people.

I’d like to pass on a simple mantra that I’ve learned. I touched upon it in my post about Body Image on Tuesday, and it’s the same idea behind my own first step in my personal journey.

“I am not this.”

When I feel sad, I am not my sadness. When I feel angry, I am not my anger.

“I am not this.”

A mantra is a simple phrase or idea that we can say, over and over if needed, to remind ourselves of a positive message. For me, that meant reminding myself that I was the host, not the parasite. I was the victim of depression, but it wasn’t a part of me. Separating myself from my depression was the single biggest step in overcoming it.

Close your eyes and take deep, calming breaths and gently but firmly remind yourself that you are bigger than your problems. Repeat this, or your own positive mantra over and over. Repeat it night and day.  Repeat it for comfort when you’re feeling weak, and repeat it again in triumph when you feel strong. Write it. Say it over and over in your head. Whisper it to yourself. Say it with conviction in the shower. Say it to yourself in the mirror. Say it over and over until you believe it.

You will believe it, and the neuron pathways in your brain will have changed, too. You can make yourself stronger. It will take time and it will require hard work, just like an Olympic Athlete who trains for years.

It will be worth it.

Today has been pretty great so far. For breakfast I finished reading Batman: The Long Halloween (awesome.), and ate avocado on homemade toast.  That is, toasted homemade bread that I baked from scratch this weekend. It’s the first time I’ve baked bread since we moved into the new place, and it turned out great and tasted delicious! I used this recipe, however, I did take the suggestion in the comments and cut the sugar in half.

By the way… I hit 200 followers on tumblr last night! Are you on tumblr? Let’s be friends!!

Weighing In

I am 30 years old, and while I don’t weigh myself very often, I average around 150 pounds. I’m 5’7” and my measurements are 32” (bust) 27” (waist) 43” (hips). My inseam is a mere 29”, meaning I have short legs and a long torso. According to the fashion magazines I read when I was younger, this makes me pear shaped.

I’m considered both “skinny” by some and “plus-sized” by others. Regardless, what’s on top and what’s on the bottom are crudely jammed together like pieces from two different puzzles.

I wear a size 10 – 12 pants, depending on brand. I wear a size “small” shirt. I’ve always worn bikinis, in order to select tops and bottoms of different sizes. When I buy dresses, I have to find a size that fits in the hips and then alter the top on my sewing machine to fit. Frequently, dresses that are large enough to fit me in the hips have a scooping neckline to accommodate a woman with a much larger chest. Don’t get me started on trying to wear a strapless dress.

Kids Can Be So Cruel

I remember a kid on the playground making fun of my “big butt” in fourth grade. In middle school when the other girls developed, I remained “flat-chested.” I distinctly remember wanting to disappear as I heard snickers and taunts behind me in Middle School Gym class, as we ran laps to Sir-Mix-a-Lot’s ubiquitous hit. In high school, a girl told me that my “jeans [were] so tight, [she could] see my tampon string.” I don’t feel like I was a victim to bullying any more than most, but I’ve been out of high school for 13 years and I still have vivid recollections of these hurtful sentiments.

Looking back, I wonder if I became “the weird girl” to avoid being compared to other girls. When I started high school I was very interested in fashion — I remember phone calls to my best girlfriends discussing the latest trends — but by graduation I stuck to jeans and t-shirts, usually adding an extra layer of a hoodie or oversized army shirt on top.

My younger sister did not have the same body type. She was certainly never called “flat-chested,” to put it… mildly. My well-meaning mother once stated that I was “the smart one” and my sister “the pretty one.” My father, repeated this sentiment as he introduced me to someone just a few months ago. He assured me he was only joking. Horrified and humiliated by the implications, I meekly informed him that I’d rather be referred to as “the artist.”

I’ve been reduced to my body-type by men: both those I was in a relationship with and complete strangers. When I broke up with a boyfriend, his words were, “Goodbye, Corey’s ass.” I inferred that was the thing he’d miss the most about me. Even more debilitating was a boy who turned me down outright, with no pretenses, by telling me he only liked “curvy” girls with bigger breasts.

Starting in high school, I wrote zines and published blog posts about being anti-label, anti-fashion, anti-make up. Sometimes identifying with feminists and sometimes not, I rejected and rebelled against an idealized female body type, a crusade made easier since I was too broke to have a TV. My chosen uniform of t-shirts and jeans continued and was further cemented in college when I got into punk rock, first dyeing my hair hot pink, then bright blue.

Perhaps dying my hair was my subconscious request to the rest of the world: “Don’t judge me by your preconceived standards of beauty!” it shouted to whomever would listen. But louder still was the harsh inner critic that still lived within my head.

Years later, when I got married, and later became pregnant, I felt increasingly aware of my body — and in less control of it than ever, thanks to the adorable little parasite growing in my womb.

After my son was born, I was happy to lose the baby-weight fairly easily, and more or less returned to my pre-pregnancy size before his first birthday. Motherhood came with new things to dislike about my body (wider hips, stretch marks and a tummy, to name a few.) I felt more confident as an adult, but somehow I still didn’t like how I looked.

Over the last four years I have started to carry myself with more pride and even learned to “dress my body” better, (that is to say, to use fashion to “trick” the viewer’s eye into believing that I’m closer to the beauty standard) and yet, when it comes down to it, I’m no happier with this body than I was at 14.

Ch-Ch-Ch-Changes

I can place the blame on society, on the media, the status quo. I can cite examples of bullying both from mean girls in middle school and misguided ex-boyfriends. But placing that blame doesn’t earn me any self-respect. It doesn’t change what I see when I look in the mirror. Unfortunately, neither do the plentiful and sincere compliments from my incredible husband. As the popular Buddhist tenant goes, “Change comes from within.”

I welcome change. I’m working on that change. It’s hard. I first imagined this blog post over a year ago. As many of the craft and DIY blogs that I followed seemed to switch their focus to fashion, the part of me that had drafted so many ‘zine articles years before began to fidget uncomfortably once again.

Many of my friends and colleagues within the blogging world started featuring “What I Wore Today” blog posts, and deciding that I could represent an alternative style and body-type, I followed suit, telling myself I was sort of a “Punk Rock DIY Fashion Model.”

“If I’m wearing things from thrift stores,” I justified, “it’s OK.” My husband took an interest in the photography side of things and I found that I actually enjoyed posing and editing the photos. I actually felt a little bit like a fashion model, and the response from the small number of photos I posted made me feel great.

What made me feel less than great was looking through the failed shots that didn’t make the cut. Each photo shoot yields maybe 10% of usable photos. What had started as an exercise to improve my own self-confidence and represent an alternative to the media’s standard of beauty was, in actuality, making me focus even harder on my body’s flaws.

My inner critic screamed louder than ever.

And it’s still screaming as I write this. After posing for photos in my underpants today to illustrate this post, I was in tears when I previewed the images, in spite of the empowerment I felt at the start of the shoot. It’s very difficult for me to look at my hips and thighs and not utter the “F-word” (you know which one I mean.)

But it’s time to change the way I look at my body.

Today, I’m posting photos of myself in my underpants. Because it’s high time to shut that inner critic up. I presented this challenge to myself, as I said, over a year ago, and it’s taken me this long to build up the confi– no, let’s say willpower to actually go through with it.

I’m not seeking support or fishing for compliments. The goal of my personal challenge is self-acceptance and these photos are intended to represent a non-sexualized, non-edited view of my body as it actually looks. Today, I will scream to whomever will listen, “This is what I actually look like and I’m OK with that!” The point of this sudden burst of exhibitionism is not a decision to show off my body, but instead, a decision to NOT hide or camouflage it.

This is what I look like.

This body, the arbitrarily assigned flesh and bones determined by my genes is what I look like. It is not who I am.

Who I am, the person I am inside, is the book reading music lover who laughs too hard at cartoons and loves both code and poetry. Some of these traits may have been influenced by my genes, but ultimately they make me who I am because I have decided they do.

According to wikipedia, “In clinical psychology and positive psychology, self-acceptance is considered the prerequisite for change to occur. It can be achieved by stopping criticizing and solving the defects of one’s self, and then accepting them to be existing within one’s self. That is, tolerating oneself to be imperfect in some parts.”

Change comes from within.

I cried when I first looked at these photos, but the more that I looked at them, the more I began to recognize something truly unique: I began to recognize myself.

More advice. This time from Jake the Dog of Adventure Time!